There was a time, not all that long ago, when we couldn’t hold hands in public and we talked a lot about “one day” when we could be together. Amid all the darkness in the world recently, I find the most light in my relationships, especially in the one I share with Thorin. So in honor of love, here is a throwback to the day–371 “one days” ago, we said our vows in front of those we hold most dear.
***All photos were taken by the wonderful Thomas Beaman, unless otherwise noted.***
One of the best things we did was have our wedding parties stay in Airbnb/VRBO houses. Our friends came in two nights before the wedding for super-relaxed bachelor/bachelorette events and the rehearsal dinner. We insisted on NO showers/parties prior to the wedding, as our friends/family are spread across the country, and I freaking hate opening gifts in front of people. Plus, how many damn gifts are people supposed to give you?? Having a shared location allowed everyone from the different times in our lives to get to know one another, paving the way for an awesome weekend.
The Wedding Morning
Sunday = long run day, so I did a solo 11-miler through Lancaster farmlands. It was the perfect way to both relax my mind and energize my body.
After that, everything went so quickly. My hairstylist of 15+ years, Belinda, did my hair. Stef, of The Bonafide Ginger, nailed a timeless look for my makeup and was a dream to work with. Preparation sustenance= mimosas and the now traditional Hawaiian Sweet Roll and Honeybaked Ham sandwiches.
First Look with Dad
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The Best of the Best of our Wedding Party
I wish I could get married again (to Thorin, obviously) so we could have all these people in the same place. The ladies are wearing different styles in Navy lace from Weddington Way and Toms of their choosing. The gents are in Express shirts and slacks (There was a Great Pants Debacle, which I found out after the fact.) and suspenders and bowties from The Tie Bar. We sincerely wanted the outfits to be wearable again!
We are family.
We were so grateful all of Thorin’s siblings could make the trip; it’s rare to have all of the Kanes in one place! Since this photo was taken, we gained two nephews we can’t wait to meet.
What I really wish we had a picture or video of, but don’t, is one of the aspects of the ceremony that made it truly special. My best buddy of nearly 20 years, Citty/Cait, sang a rendition of Echosmith’s “Bright” as the moms and bridesmaids walked down the aisle. It was beautiful and tore at my feels right before I stepped out of the barn to “Concerning Hobbits.” Those personal touches, like Citty’s song, my godmother reading during the service, my grandparents/great aunt and uncle/godparents/parents putting together the rehearsal dinner, and my Nan nursing ferns throughout the year so they could flank the aisle, really made our day unique.
When we couldn’t decide on a Pinterest-worthy theme, we just threw everything we liked together and came up with: American literary harvest. So, without further ado, I give you…red, white, and blue + books + wine + LOTR + fall. My nan was my florist/decorator and nailed it.
We eschewed many of the traditional wedding “things you’re supposed to do” in favor of spending as much time as possible with our guests. We took pictures before the wedding so we and our wedding party could actually be at cocktail hour. The food was sensational–seasonal, scrumptious, and perfect. Possibly my favorite part of our wedding was the toasts…our people were above and beyond the typical toast game. My only regret is not having recorded them. Nat and Jess and Kyle gave lovely tributes. Corey filled the guests in on Thorin’s “slow play.” Krit welcomed me to the Kane clan. And Mike both roasted and honored his big sis and new brother. So much love!
For those who care about these things:
- Our First Dance Songs: ilgresi by Sigur Ros and My Guy by Diana Ross
- Father/Daughter Song: You Can Close Your Eyes by James Taylor, which my dad used to sing to me when I couldn’t fall asleep
- Mother/Son Song: Forever Young cover by Iron & Wine
Here are some of our favorites from our first look and shots from around the village. The best part was a man in a motorized scooter who kept reversing into the frame during our first look. The beep beep beep really set the mood.
Thomas was great about keeping us really relaxed and the time we spent taking pictures before the wedding was the most intimate time we got to spend together during the evening.
And then, all of a sudden, it was over and we were hugging people goodbye after what felt like just minutes. We are so grateful to everyone who shared this day with us and to those who sent their wishes from afar. We felt so loved and were happy to finally share our story with our family and friends from every stage of our lives. Thank you!
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